My Turn


Blogging can really get to me sometimes. While I've been blogging since high school, it can be frustrating to see a ton of other people jump on the scene and receive almost instant success so quickly. It's so easy to start a blog and build a voice with social media nowadays, so for someone like me who has put in actual years of time and effort into my blog and content, it's easy to get upset too.

I'll be honest, it's no fun to see someone that you've helped start their blog receive more engagement than your own. I've been there many times, and it's really hard not to feel the slightest bit of jealousy towards their success.

ELLE posted a video with Chelsea Handler, and while I'm not a raging Chelsea Handler fan, I felt like she was speaking directly to me the entire time. Watch it below: 



All in all, like she said, it's okay to feel jealous. That's human, and that's not something we can always control. However, we can control how we react to those feelings. Shift the focus from what everyone else is doing and start focusing on yourself and your journey. Trust me, I still struggle with this, but I'm finding the more I put things into perspective and refocus my energy towards my own matters, the less likely I am to feel down about myself and my work.

So, just because the blog next door landed a major partnership with a brand you love doesn't mean there's not something out there for you, too. The key is to remember to always be authentic, always be true to who you are, and you'll never have to worry about someone else coming along and stealing your show. There's a little bit of room for everyone, you just have to be patient and wait for your time to come.

post signature

9 comments

  1. I often struggle with the exact same feelings! Love your honesty in this post. I remind myself that being true to "me" will always get me where I am supposed to be in the long run! XO

    ReplyDelete
  2. This is so true! and this goes for every aspect of our lives. I remember just a month ago I began to feel jealous of my best friend cause she got into a relationship and I have never been in one.But after talking to my sister, i realized that i am in another stage in life. My time will come. You are doing a fabulous job with your blog Shelby, this is very inspiring :)

    Nikki O. | www.herdaringthoughts.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  3. I love this, Shelby! Comparing yourself to others is so easy to do yet does nothing for you in the long run! I'm glad to hear I'm not the only blogger who struggles with this from time to time!

    xoxo,
    Katie
    chicincarolina.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  4. SO TRUE. Blogging can get very discouraging and it bums me out sometimes seeing those who have came into the blogging game after me and already have sky rocketed. I really needed this. Thank you for a reminder to stay true to myself. Always love reading your posts and keep doing you girl!
    xoxo
    Amy | Pastel N Pink

    ReplyDelete
  5. I'm a beginner blogger and have had so much trouble watching other beginner bloggers have success while I'm still trying to gain a loyal following. Looking at other big bloggers can also be discouraging because they're having so much more success than myself. I put so much time into my blog to gain that following and to have my voice heard only to have a couple people read it. I've been a bit down in the dumps about it today and this post came at the most perfect time! Thank you so much for sharing, it saved me from thinking about stopping something I've put so much love and effort into!
    XO Alyson | My Life as Alyson

    ReplyDelete
  6. Needed this post today, for sure! Three plus years in, and sometimes it's very discouraging. But we keep on, because we truly love it!
    xoxo, Piper Ellice @ piperellice.com

    ReplyDelete
  7. I struggle with this feeling all the time - great, honest post!

    http://lizziedailyblog.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  8. I used to keep up with several blogs, but as the authors became full-time bloggers living extravagant #sponsored lifestyles, I couldn't relate to them and stopped reading. Lucky Day is one of the few blogs I still read frequently because you still have interesting posts. AND you have a full-time job. There's so much to be said for someone who can have a real world job and still create interesting content.

    ReplyDelete
  9. I could not relate to this post more if I tried! I've been blogging for years (although I will admit that during college my consistency was up and down)...there are people I personally helped begin their blogs who received instant engagement practically overnight, and I always feel so guilty when I feel my jealousy flare! The comparison game is intense with social media these days. Great post!

    xo
    Olivia
    PrepEssentials

    ReplyDelete

Latest Instagrams

© Lucky Day. Design by Fearne.